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Resolving Interpersonal Conflict

Having conflict between people is a fact of life and it is not always a bad thing. In fact, a relationship with conflict may be better than one with no observable conflict. When conflict happens, it might strengthen or weaken the relationship. Therefore, this is why conflict plays a critical role in the course of any relationship.

Consider the following scenario:

Jim and Robin were my best friends in my secondary school clique. Due to a misunderstanding caused by a third party, they had been waging a cold war with each other for 2 years. This had been a big problem for our clique when arranging for meetings and outings.

Jim, in particular, was more persistent in the cold war. He would insist that he would not turn up for any meeting whenever Robin was present. On the other hand, Robin was more willing in trying to make this friendship between Jim and him to work out. However, there was very little Robin could do as Jim would rather shut him out whenever he tries to start a conversation with him.

Two more years had passed and we decided to go on a trip together as a clique (consisting of 6). We think that this would be a good time for both of them to bond together. We thought that with more people around, it would be less awkward for the two to start talking directly to each other.  Thankfully, Jim was much more receptive this time round and he agreed to come for this trip together after our persuasions.

However, at the last moment before we set off, the other 2 of my friends were unable to make it for this trip. That leaves only me and my other friend, Chris to be on the trip with Jim and Robin.

This puts me in a dilemma. As the leader of the clique and the organizer of this trip, what should I do to make sure this trip is enjoyable for all? How can I create some chances for Robin and Jim to interact again? And how can I possibly minimize any misunderstanding that could be generated in the course of this upcoming trip?